I get these daily emails with little tidbits of parenting advise. I find they are a great way to start my day when I am not able to get up and do my full bible study. It seems to me, that when I just start my day on my own, without the Lord’s strength and knowledge behind me I find myself being a sub-par parent.
That is not what I want to be.
Today’s email was something I have been noticing myself doing lately.
Saying, “No” quite often.
So today I am going to try to say yes more often. This probably means I won’t get as much laundry done, or get ANY work done on reorganizing the basement, but that’s ok. Because it also means I will spend time with my kids, doing what THEY want to do.
This is what the email this morning said:
Prov. 14:1: The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down (NIV).
Our actions and words have the ability to build up or tear down. Think about how you communicate with your kids. Do you find yourself saying no a lot more than you say yes? When we habitually say no, we inadvertently tear down our kids’ sense of confidence and capability. So often, we think our no is protecting our kids when we are really just protecting our desire for control.
“No” is the easy answer, but as long as you can do it with integrity, try to say yes to your kids as much as possible. “Yes” sends a message of confidence and encouragement that our kids are desperately seeking. It’s true that saying yes will take more time and energy, but yes is a faith answer because it requires you to trust the Lord. You may be surprised to find that the more you say yes, the more your kids will be willing to accept your no.
Build your “house” by being confident and encouraging.
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